Discussion of findings

Summary

     From all of our findings, we can conclude that a large number of students have mostly less than 3 siblings. Our hypothesis was that the smaller the age gap, the more frequent the amount of fights, which is proven somewhat right in the data collected. The age gaps with the most amount of fights occurring are 3, 4 and 5 and as the age gaps increase, the frequency of the fights decrease. As students of this age are somewhat impatient and sensitive, they tend to feel uncomfortable when their siblings close to their age could match up to them, causing jealousy and envy. But one of the main reason behind these arguments is that siblings fail to understand each other, what is going through their mind and how they will feel about their actions. As for students with siblings of a larger age gap, they feel that they have much less in common and relation to the others. As a result, they lack communication and this prevents miscommunication or arguments from occurring. However, this finding is rather thought provoking. Would students really not talk to their siblings at all just to risk not fighting with one another? 

     Another conclusion that we came to from evaluating the data was that students with siblings of both genders fight the most frequently, followed by students with male siblings only and students with female siblings only. According to facts, females are the feminine ones and normally are eloquent, do not like fights or quarrels. That is why when most of the students have female siblings, they tend to fight less frequently than those who have male siblings.

     From what we received, most of them have conflicts in personal privacy and simple annoyance. They find their own space intruded with no sense of privacy, as though their siblings have prying eyes that seem to try to dig their secrets out. They also just seem to have this mindset that if, having younger siblings, like they are just the fifth wheel, not important but just attention seekers; or if having older siblings, they can never compete or match up to be as good as them, just hiding in their shadows. Because of these reasons, it evokes a mixture of jealousy and spitefulness, as though walking on eggshells and skirting around one another.

     But we can't live under the same roof together if we keep harbouring these thoughts if the older one is always haughty and the younger arrogant. There will be a never-ending of squabbles and insult-hurling if there is nothing done to patch up the relationship. Even simple things like chores and duties could spark up fights.

     From the respondents, most of them mentioned that if their parents were brought known to the dispute, the most they would do is just to give both(or more) parties an earful without considering the present problem, thinking that will leave them in guilt and be all friendly with each other again. But no, it does not work this way, as parents would expect. This will only leave students thinking that their parents are showing favouritism should their punishment be more severe than their siblings. They will most likely go into a negative spiral, detesting not only their siblings, but perhaps also their own parents. Only a small amount of parents would actually mediate between them and make a small tiny effort to bring forth reconciliation. This finding is rather saddening as this is probably the most effective method to stop the fighting and argument. Most parents do not realise that by mediating between siblings, it forces them to calm down and communicate their true thoughts and emotions, solving whatever might have caused the argument in the first place. As the students mature and grow, parents tend to discard the "whip and cane" method, knowing it will only etch a scar in their hearts. Parents of the new century do not really use the old traditional physical method, but do what modern people will do: Cut their children's allowance, send them to their rooms, ground them etc.

     Deep inside, everyone will be swaying with nostalgia, wishing those days of skirting around mine field like situations would be over. But we all have to start off first, to apologise and make peace between themselves because it is never too late to mend.

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